Viewing Divorce as a Growth Experience

No matter how long you were married prior to starting the divorce process, you’re likely feeling lost right now. When you’re part of a married couple, it becomes part of your identity—and divorce is a painful end to a core part of who you are. While you may not be able to change what’s happening in your life, you may be able to shift how you view it and make it a period of growth for you.

When you work with the right legal team during your divorce, you can fight for the assets and support you need to navigate this next stage a little more easily. Call the Spartanburg divorce attorneys at Nowell Law Firm at 864-707-1785 to set up a consultation now.

Spending Time on Reflection

It’s crucial to give yourself the time and space you need to reflect on what you’ve gone through. Many people throw themselves back into life after divorce, distracting themselves with dating, an increased workload, and new hobbies. While distraction can be a useful coping tool when you’re overwhelmed with grief, it’s important to give yourself time to think and reflect as well. You may get insight into what happened, what went wrong in your marriage, and how this struggle can cast some light on what you want out of life.

Finding Lessons from the Experience

Every experience, especially the painful ones we’d never seek out, comes with opportunities for growth and learning. Divorce shouldn’t be viewed solely as a mistake or failure that you need to move on from as quickly as possible. There are insights and wisdom to be gleaned from the entire process, and those insights can help you make the most of your new chance at life. 

Perhaps you married young, believing that love would carry your marriage through to the end, or perhaps you overlooked glaring red flags that would now cause you to run from the hills. In addition to showing you what you don’t want from a marriage, divorce gives you the chance to see what you do want. Whether you long for effective communication, a partnership where you and your spouse truly support each other, or emotional intimacy, divorce has a way of highlighting what your ex-spouse was incapable of giving you.

Exploring Your Goals and Dreams

If you look back at your marriage and think about the person you were before you got married, you’ll likely uncover some dreams and goals you gave up. This is common—many of us set aside our own aspirations in order to support our partner and help our marriage thrive. But that comes at the expense of your own growth and happiness. What dreams still light you up and make you look forward to waking up in the morning? Now that you have a chance at a fresh start, find a way to focus on those dreams and bring them to fruition.

Pivoting to a New Start

Whether or not the divorce was your choice, it is now in the past. While you should spend an appropriate amount of time grieving—and that period of time is completely dependent on your circumstances—it’s also important to start building a life you love. You may find it helpful to work with a therapist or life coach, particularly if you’re unsure of your direction and how to use your time most effectively. 

You may dig into your career, pouring your energy into new projects. You may spend more time with friends and family, particularly if you have children who are also recovering from the divorce. Maybe you’ll simply enjoy your own company for a while, figuring out what you want out of life and how you want this new chapter to look. If you feel a little stuck, you’re not alone. Many people find it incredibly difficult to move on from their marriage. Consider a divorce support group to help you find the healing you need.  

If you’re looking for a divorce support group in the upstate, you can find a local group for Divorce Care by visiting their website.  There is a separate group called Solace that meets at Westminster Presbyterian in Spartanburg two Tuesdays a month (you can email wardmarsha53@gmail.com for more information).  Whatever route you choose, know there are resources out there to help people in your very situation.  An added benefit to these groups is making new friends who are going through similar experiences and can therefore better relate to yours.

Facing Divorce? Choose Nowell Law Firm

Still looking for a Spartanburg family law attorney to help you navigate your divorce? It’s time to talk to the team at Nowell Law Firm. Call us at 864-707-1785 or reach out online now.